I had goals for my family and for the kind of relationship I wanted to have with my kids when I became a mom. Some of those goals were achieved & some of them ended up being impossible as the realities of life and parenting set in. It’s easy to have an ideal in your mind and to forget that we are dealing with growing people who are each wired differently & have thoughts and desires of their own.
It’s easy to miss the fact that It’s not about what I want but about what they need and what is best for them.
Now that I am grandparent, it can be easy to fall back into that way of thinking —- wanting things to be a certain way & wanting to have an ideal relationship with my grown children & grandchildren. Yet, again, it’s not about me and what I want. I am not owed anything. It’s about what they need & what is best for them. So, I am trying to live without expectations, offering up my relationships with my children and grandchildren to God.
They are His. Any time I get with them is cherished and a privilege!
Tonight I’m sitting in a hotel room with my @bpsmith2017, taking care of my sweet granddaughter so that her parents can go to a wedding. It’s what they needed so we just rolled with it 😊 happy they still want us around & that they included us in their weekend.
We take it one day at a time and try to be available in the ways that are needed. And if for some reason we don’t hear from them or we aren’t needed, I will offer them up to God . They are His. I will pray for them and thank God for the time I do get with them.
I am trying to live without expectations, offering up my relationships with my children and grandchildren to God. What a gift and a privilege it is to be a parent and a grandparent.
What a gift!
